Saturday, November 22, 2014

Another day of motherhood

  You know when you have those weeks that nothing seems to go right or at least those couple days?Well that was my week this week.Of course we all have them and I honestly have had way worse happen in my life, but I think we are all allowed to have the woe me days. I think as a mother we have them often, but I try as hard as I can to not have them consume me. It also helps when you have nice people around you to help you. Huge Plus!

  My week started off with my husband waking me up Monday morning at 5:45am saying his car wouldn't start. Unless you have a newborn baby or are heading to work nobody should be up at this time. :)  I normally would of just said take the van we just wont go anywhere today which typically happens anyways. However that day Shane my son was getting evaluated by the school district to see if he could qualify for their Preschool. With his speech delay this would be of great importance and there is limited time since his 3 year old birthday is coming up. I also that night had a coupon class at 7pm in ogden which with my husbands work schedule the way it is and his commute he wouldn't be able to get home in time for me to use the car for that either. So I grumbled got out of bed and tried to see what was wrong with his car. It was turning on and lights were coming on but not starting officially. We tried jumping the battery, so on and so forth. Every option we tried. Also this was a VERY COLD MORNING I believe it  was around 12 degrees! BRRR that woke me up! The other option was I could take him to the train station, but that meant waking my beautifully sleeping children. Who would be very cranky if I did. Well we waited till more of a proper hour for my boys to wake up and took my husband to train station to head to work. 

  The rest of the day the boys were cranky. Shane did ok for his preschool testing but toward the end was not handling it well. Jeremy on the other hand threw a fit during a ton of the testing. We got home and my coupon class cancelled on me for a family emergency so once again i felt frustrated. Like I said though I have had way worse!

My week continued with the next day my 19 m old son   hitting his head on my open van door and needing to go get stitches....

  My son fought and fought during the whole stitches process. He even fought me putting the towel on his eyebrow to stop the bleeding.... He is tough though and we all made it through.... They were both rewarded with a token for the ball machine and they both came home with a bouncy ball.  We got home around 3 or so from doctor and I ordered pizza! I was exhausted! After I ordered pizza my sweet friend offered to bring me dinner after seeing on facebook how my day was. I told her that was very sweet and that I had just ordered pizza.  The thought alone helped make my day better though! Its amazing what simple acts of kindness can do! 

  So far the rest of my week had been normal and I hate to be so negative about being a mom because its a wonderful thing and the hugs, and snot kisses they give you make it all worth it! I know with two boys this wont be my last trip to the doctor for stitches but I can hope right? I also continue to amaze myself what I can handle by myself with two boys under 3, just 15 m apart.  This was definitely one for the books for sure! Oh and by the way my husbands battery was the issue to his car so that was very nice! Just the price of the battery was it and the time to take it out and in! The auto zone guy said that the battery was only about 50% charged and when he did the slow charging process it remained the same. So it was a bad battery and we got a discount on our new one because the old one ran out before its time!: )  I hope your week was better than mine and that you can find the positive in these hard things that happen in life like I TRY to do. Till next week and hope you have a  Happy Thanksgiving!


Monday, November 17, 2014

Sleep study/ speech update

Hello All,

It feel like it's been a while since I have seen you all or sent an update to my side. So here it is, This might get long and I apologize!

First I'll start with Shane, as most of you know he had a sleep study and the results of that showed that he has sleep apnea or breathing blockage at night so he is not getting the full breaths of air he should while sleeping. So we are going to be getting his tonsils/adenoids  out January 9th 2015, during this procedure the Ent will also inject a "anti wrinkle" type solution into his paralyzed vocal chord (only lasts 3 months) to help the vocal chord close  and open together with the other. This will hopefully prevent the non stop coughing after Shane drinks fluids. So this will be like a 3 m test to see if that helps. This will be an overnight stay at primary's he will be admitted for this so I'm  hoping it's just the one night.  As far as Shane's speech goes. In August he was testing at the comprehension of his age and verbally a 22 m old. He can put two words together now we are working at three words. When he turns three he will be "kicked" out of Early intervention program and won't have his group and speech sessions anymore. Shane was evaluated today for a preschool sponsored by school district, but he passed on "normal" range for his age so  he doesn't qualify for the ongoing education... This is good, I'm glad he is so smart but feel he is still not quite there yet. The school will talk to his current speech therapists and ask her opinion and they will officially get back to me. He might still qualify for speech help. We will see. Shane will also have his heart doctor appt before his tonsil removal I hope and we will see what his leaky valve is doing. Shane sweats very easily so that worries me. This time of year is always hard and brings back memories.

Jeremy is a normal happy kid talking a ton! I can't believe how fast he is growing he will be 20 m soon! Shane and Jeremy just love each other and play so well! They truly are best friends and everybody thinks they're twins! :)

Nathan is working overtime daily m-f now. so he is gone 5:50 am- 7:45pm. I continue to hold down the cox household and take care of our precious boys!  I'm still teaching coupon classes on the side it's not a money making venture, but it at least a gives me the time away I think a mothers need sometimes!  We look forward to seeing the cox/little family at thanksgiving! My family, I miss you and wish I could see you all more often! Nathan has some time off before Christmas so I think we will be having a stay cation at our home. :) love you all!!!

Emily and Nathan
Shane and Jeremy

Sent from my iPhone

Saturday, November 1, 2014

Power of Positive thinking

   So since today is the first day of November the month we celebrate Thanksgiving which is a holiday dedicated to being Thankful I had these thoughts come through my head about being thankful which is one of the ways of positive thinking. . The United states has claimed this day where most people get the day off work to celebrate with their families and remember what we are thankful for. That alone I think should show most the importance of being thankful or grateful in our lives.
  Through my trials and hardships in my life I try to be thankful and positive. I am part of a group called Intermountain Healing Hearts its a group that helps families with adults or children with Heart defects. This has been a great group to get support and opinions. Every year they have a moms night our or in this case a lunch. Where all the moms of heart children or who have heart defects can meet together mingle and have encouraging words. 

  This last May our speaker and musician was Hilary Weeks. I remember seeing her perform way back ,hen I attended a Especially for youth conference for my church. She has beautiful music but with her beautiful music she had a beautiful message to all us moms that have very hard days with
these children with sever disabilities.   She had heard someone mention that we think about 300 negative thoughts a day. So she wanted to test this out. She got a clicker and everytime she had a negative thought about anything she clicked.... After about seven days of this she noticed a change in her. She was depressed, moody, and overall negative. This counting of negative thoughts were taking over her life. She realized how awful it was to focus on the negative. So she came upon this website. These were people instead of clicking every time they had a negative thought they were clicking when something positive happens or have positive thoughts. Hilary started doing this and she was amazed at how her life started changing because she was focused on the positive! 

This is Hilary Weeks and I. 

  Thinking Positive is something I have tried hard to strive for and it can be in the very simple things and daily tasks we do. Im thankful I got some sleep last night, I'm thankful we have blankets for these chilly nights, I'm thankful for the heat I have because it keeps me warm. Whatever it is we need to try to think positively in all we do. Being negative brings everyone else around you negativity too. Try to surround yourself with positive things. Music, beauty, family, and friends. That will lift you up. I'm not perfect there has been plenty bad days where negativity takes over,but I just try to start fresh the next day. Since its the start of November think of one or two things a day that are positive or that you are grateful and thankful for. Write them down or post them on your Facebook. Get the negativity out of this world one positive click at a time!